As I reminisce about working with Pat one year ago, I can see the rapid-fire learning moments she gave me.
Even though there were decades between us, there were so many commonalities I hadn’t expected. Our life had a similar pattern of inner and outer turmoil, all leading back to deep-seated wounds as little girls, mostly from mother relationships.
I quickly found myself in a place that was so much more than capturing a dying woman’s story. I was looking into a reflection in many ways, and it pulled at my heartstrings every single day.
I share an excerpt from the Wilde House Of blog (which I hope to migrate here someday soon) from March 30, 2023. I sense a heaviness in my words, which implies the depths we were both reaching through our experiences together.
March 30, 2023 –
I have noticed the subtle changes in our conversations over the past few days. For the most part, Pat has divulged many of the stories she has carried for years and handed them over for the book. But, more than anything, I want her essence to come through in this biography. Who is she?
The narrate someone’s essence doesn’t come directly from the events and relationships of their life, although there is value. So my questions have become abstract, searching for the messages written on Pat’s heart and soul.
It isn’t always easy for Pat to reveal those pieces, and it isn’t always easy for me to hear. Yesterday, we spoke about forgiveness—of others and of ourselves. It seems peace and contentment arrive much faster when we can resolve those feelings.
Death has always promised to pay each of us a visit. While most of us will not experience it in the same way, I find myself humbly considering my life story.
If hospice were to become a chapter for me, what stories would I still want to share? Would there be any conversations yet to be shared? Phew.
Sitting by Pat’s side, holding her hand, and answering some of her questions about life’s meaning has become sacred. I am so thankful to share this space and time with a beautiful woman who wants to become a published author.
Are you listening, Oprah?
Pat’s Memoir is available at the link provided and at Hezzie Mae’s storefront.
Top 5 Lessons I Learned from Pat
1. Unexpected Connections:
Despite our age difference, Pat and I found common ground in our life stories. It showed me that connections can be found in the most unexpected places.
2. Digging Deeper:
Working with Pat taught me to look beyond the surface and really explore what makes a person who they are. It’s not just about the events in their lives but the essence of who they are.
3. Finding Peace:
Our chats about forgiveness weren’t always easy, but they showed me the importance of letting go of grudges and finding peace within ourselves.
4. Embracing Life:
Pat’s journey with hospice made me reflect on my own life. It reminded me to live each day to the fullest and appreciate the moments we have.
5. Sacred Moments:
Sitting by Pat’s side, discussing life’s big questions, felt like a privilege. It showed me the beauty of sharing meaningful moments, even in tough times.
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